This is just a friendly, post election reminder to be kind. I think we, including myself, can get so wrapped up in the competition of it all that we forget what’s really important. If you like him, if you hate him, Obama is the president so let’s make him work for all of us. That’s what he was elected to do! Let’s take these next 4 years and come together.
No matter what side you’re on, remember that there’s a nice and mean way to get your point across. Think before you speak.
And, i’m sorry, being computerless has made blogging difficult. I promise I have posts written and waiting to go up as soon as everything gets fixed!
Juste Love :)
victoriavang asked: Oh by the way. I think juste love should also be a magazine or have the same contents. Just a thought
Well, maybe in the future, when I finish my degree in Psych!
It’s been a while and that’s no good!
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about our relationships and the time and effort put into them.
One of the hardest things that we go through can be dealing with a relationship that has ended. This becomes harder when we’re not the ones that ended it. I am one of the worst when it comes to letting go. I guess I’m what you’d call a friend hoarder.
More recently, I’ve noticed friends going through this as well. I’m 23, almost 24 and I believe this becomes even more common as I am getting older. As you change and become more involved with becoming the person you’re going to be in your adult life, you start to make stronger, deeper relationships with others. This is because you know yourself better, you can (hopefully) communicate better and you make friends with people who are interested in the same things. I have noticed though that sometimes friendships reach there limit. It becomes harder to put efforts into relationships that do not work. I am not saying you should start to hate these people but that you should focus on those who provide a positive connection and put the same amount of effort in as you do.
The other type of relationship of course would be a romantic one. This tends to be harder to let go, most of the time. We have a hard time accepting either the idea of being alone, the idea of trying to find and make a new connection with another, or we still have feelings for that person. So what can be done to get over this feeling?
I’ll admit that I still have days where I miss exes and old friends. I think when you love someone, a part of you will always love them and you will think about them from time to time. Here’s 5 reminders though to keep you sane and allow you to move forward:
1. There is no such thing as a time where you should be over someone. You’ll get over them in your own time.
2. Go pick up, “It’s called a break up cause it’s broken”. It will surprise you and it has helpful guides to aid you through a break up!
3. You need to give yourself time. You can’t be best friends after a breakup (something I’ve found hard to accept) and sometimes you can’t ever be friends. However, you can learn to accept that and with time, you’ll be okay with it.
4. You’re still alive. This means the other 6 billion people in the world have a chance to meet you. That means that out of those people, you’ll love again or make a new friend.
5. You’re an amazing person. The worst thing you can do to yourself after you’ve lost a friend or a lover is add low self esteem. Stop throwing a pity party for yourself, no one wants to come to that kind of party. If you have to, write on a paper and hang up a sign that says you’re awesome. Add to that sign all the amazing things that make you you. Eventually, you’ll realize it too.
Understand that sometimes relationships end. It happens to everyone at least once and you will get through it!
*note that the loss I’m talking about is not related to death, and that is a completely different kind of loss. I’m talking about people losing touch and making new relationships.
**if you start to realize that you pr a friend cannot get through a breakup or end of a friendship and you or your friend think you might be depressed or hurt yourself, tell someone or call the many hotlines available.
I’m really tired of how rude, ignorant and disrespectful people are lately. These are things my mother always taught me and I think, in light of mother’s day and of recent events, these are important to review.
1. Be respectful of others and their possessions.
2. If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.
3. Angry at someone? Get them back with kindness.
4. Just because someone “hits” you, it does not give you the right to hit them back.
5. Fighting doesn’t solve anything.
6. And you don’t have to agree with everyone’s choices. But if they’re not hurting you, keep your opinions about their choice to yourself and accept that it’s not your choice to make.
Anonymous asked: i know you say everyone is beautiful exactly how they are and i agree! but the thing is that people are so superficial it makes people so self conscious. how is the bigger girl supposed to get the guy she wants if he isnt physically attracted to her? and how is the dumb guy gonna get the smart girl? it's hard to believe that everyone is actually perfect because nobody can just be themselves without others passing judgement. :/
I totally see where you’re coming from but sometimes you gotta take another approach. If the girl doesn’t get the guy because he’s not physically attracted to her it sucks. And frankly, I do believe that the right guy won’t pass by the girl whose right for him no matter what she looks like. BUT, it could be just as easy to say that the physically attractive girl could end up not getting the guy because the guy doesn’t like that girl’s personality. In high school and even college, it’s hard to see it that way because at that age, you don’t really know yourself yet. So, a lot of relationships you make there will be superficial. But I promise, it does change once you’re out in the real world. You start to make more deep and meaningful relationships. You start to see people for who they are underneath the physical layer.
People will always be attracted initially to physical beauty,BUT, I promise that inner beauty is more important. You’ll realize this as you get older.
And the “dumb” guy won’t get the “smart” girl and vice versa because they have nothing in common. You will also realize this as you get older but you make the best relationships with the people you have most in common with. So, people who don’t have anything to talk about, people who don’t have a similar thirst for knowledge, wouldn’t be well suited for each other.
I’m sorry I used the word perfect because that word is confusing. But you have the ability to make up your own definition of perfect; everyone else does. I will tell you one thing that I believe, I think everyone is perfect at being themselves. Once you let go of that “what you’re supposed to be” and just be, you are perfect. No one will ever be just like you and no one will think exactly like you. I think once you realize that, you are the most perfect. And you should try to believe that, no matter what anyone else says, because there will always be someone who is trying to get you down. So make up your own version of how you can be perfect and just do it.
And forget anyone who tells you that you’re not amazing, beautiful, smart, perfect.
You’re the most perfect you.
You’re smart, or you have the potential to be; try.
You’re capable, even if you don’t know it.
You’re interesting, no one will be exactly like you.
You’re loved, by at lease one person. And one person is enough.
You have a lot to smile about.
Juste Love yourself.
Anonymous asked: hi! i just wanted to say you are like my role model! and i was wondering if i could ask something? my friend always likes to make fun of me during lunch time when all my friends are sitting around me. she calls me stupid stuff that doesnt even make sense, but everyone still laughs. i have tried telling her over and over, calmly, that it really hurts my feeling even though she says im kidding. the only thing i think i can do left is yell at her, but i dont want to embaress my self yelling at her? is there any suggestions of the kinds of things i should tell her?
Don’t yell at her. It won’t solve anything. Girls tend to tease the girls they are the most jealous over. Or, they pick the girls that they see they can hurt the most because they don’t feel good about themselves. It sucks to think that some people get satisfaction by making others hurt but that’s how it happens especially in highschool.
This is going to suck but you can’t stop her, you told her how you feel and you have to unfortunately, move forward. The best advice I can give is try to sit somewhere else or try to just ignore it. I know that isn’t easy and I’ve had this happen to me (even at 23). I’m super sensitive and I take insults so seriously. So I can imagine how you feel and it sucks. Bring something to do at the lunch table if ignoring is too hard.
I think you did the right thing by speaking up for yourself, and frankly that’s so brave and I commend you! You told her that you were hurt by what she said. She said she was kidding and I still don’t think she will understand how you feel until it’s done to her, WHICH YOU SHOULD NOT DO. Take the high road because I promise this will pass. She will move on and forget about teasing you.
I hope this helped and you’re always welcome to vent or message me again!
Anonymous asked: hii. i love this blog, and everything on it. im always soo excitedd when i see a new post.. but i was wondering if you could give me some advicee.. im a person who gets jealous really easily.. and there was this girl.. who turned one my best friends against me.. so i have a new best friend now.. and lately that girl has been all over my new best friend and i dont want to lose her too.. but they have been hanging out alot lately and i dont want to lose my best friend again.. could you give me some advice to stop being so jealous?
This is a tough one because I think everyone goes through this at some point. I sort of like to think that everyone can be friends. I introduce my friends to older friends and like to make my friend group bigger.
But this is a different situation. This girl that turned your best friend against you, I don’t really know the circumstances so I don’t really know how to advise you. However, you can’t stop people from being friends and you shouldn’t. This is going to sound like crappy advice but just be yourself. It’s the only thing you can do. Trust in the fact that you’re a fun person to be around and the real friends will stick around.
But don’t feel bad, I get jealous too. It happens, it sucks to feel that way but you have to try and be more confident (I tell myself the same things sometimes ha). So how do you not be jealous? Honestly, find something you like about the girl you’re jealous about, be nice, love yourself, and as I said, trust that you’re worth being around. And if you ever need to vent again, you’re welcome to vent to me :) It’ll be okay and thanks for reading!
I was browsing through my personal blog earlier and I read a post by a girl that I follow that loves Japan. This girl takes beautiful pictures of Japan and she loves it. Another girl posted an anon question on her wall and asked her if she had any advice on what to do when people called her names about loving Japan. The photographer girl said she had no advice, she said she hid what she loves from even her family because she didn’t want to be teased.
Are. you. kidding. me?
I really, sincerely, hope that none of my followers on this are a part of the group of human beings that tease others for what they love.
To the girls who are so afraid to be themselves, I get it. I was that way too. I was the anime club president for like a couple months and I realized that there were always going to be people who were going to tease me for what I loved. So I started to just not tell anyone, I mean I like other things too. I figured that was okay. But it’s not, it’s not okay to hide any part of yourself. You have to accept and be yourself. That’s the only way you can love really love yourself.
To those who are making others feel bad because of what they like, which by the way isn’t something we can control, then I feel worse for you. What kind of a person can feel good about making someone else feel bad? Start thinking about others feelings before you speak.
WE ALL NERD OUT OVER SOMETHING. Whether it be fashion, art, music, anime, food, technology, news, shoes, books, sci-fi, vampires, whatever, we all have something that we love and we can’t even explain why.
Stop being mean to eachother, there are enough terrible things going on in the world. Don’t add to shit we have to live in. We have to look out for eachother. We have to accept ourselves and eachother for who we all are.
So Juste Love. You don’t have to understand everyone, but do your best not to harm them just because they like something that you don’t. If they’re not hurting you, anyone else or themselves, then it’s not for you to judge.
Sorry, i’ve been so slow with writing lately! I am currently working on getting a bachelor’s degree in Psychology so that I can actually bring Juste Love into schools. Juste Love will eventually serve as an anti-bullying, self-esteem boosting, and guidance program in high schools. So be patient while I try to put this together because it will take some time to be implemented!
I will continue to write while this program is being created but it will be a bit less than before.
Thank you for reading :) Juste Love.